Disappointment is a common condition among children even if many parents fail to notice it or do not think that a child of several anisors might know what it means to be deprived of something or someone. Helping the child to overcome disappointments is one of the hardest parenting lessons, because you have to deal with a sad, apathetic, angry little boy who is crying and sometimes doesn't know why!
Child disappointment can come from a variety of sources: from missing a friend's birthday, from not waiting for the long-awaited gift, and failing to fulfill parents' promises to them.
Communicate with him and help him express his feelings!
It is essential for the little boy to unload and tell his steps. Only in this way can you help him. Always encourage him to express his emotions and feelings, this being the first step in resolving both internal and external conflicts.
Help him put the disappointment into words: "Are you sad and crying because you can't go to the party being sick?", "Are you angry, nervous?".
Be affectionate and offer her your support!
Empathize with the little boy and show him that you understand him and that you know what he is going through. And you know what it's like to be disappointed that you can't do something. And the child should feel the same, and just as you want to have people around you that support your morals, and he has the same need! Be near him and make sure he is not alone and that he does not have to go through it alone!
Listen to what he has to say and show him respect for his feelings and feelings!
Do not tell her that you should not feel sad or upset or that you should not cry "from anything". Show her love, support and affection, but especially respect the feelings that you open in front of you. Listen to what you have to say with all your being and use your body language to express it.
Teach him to think in perspective!
Life is not always right and right, no matter how good you are or who you are. But that doesn't mean you have to feel that your life is ending with every failure or disappointment. It is not necessary to treat these moments as exaggerated as an end of the world. Teach him to follow this principle. Always show them that there are alternatives or compensatory ways of these disappointments.
Teach him to focus more on achievements than disappointments!
Develop a positive outlook on life. It is more advisable to pay attention to his achievements and achievements than to make too much trouble for these problems that will continue to hit all the way. It will help them gain more confidence in them and overcome them more easily. Through positive discipline techniques you will be able to do this.
Teach him how to deal with failure!
If the little one is taught how to lose the smile on their lips or how to cope with failure, it will be easier for them to bear the feeling of disappointment caused by others. That way you will always know what's going to happen and be prepared for it.
Make sure he is not the only one who happens to be!
Show them and talk to them through examples of the fact that people are always disappointed and that this happens with a certain frequency or regularity in everyone's life. That way, the little one will feel more comfortable. Use personal examples or stories! Remind them that these effects do not last forever and that soon they will feel much better!
Explain to the child that some expectations are unrealistic!
For example, if your little one wants to go to a movie just when you have more work or when no one is available to take him, you must explain to him that there are situations when his wishes cannot be fulfilled and that he must accept them. as such. Go on the premise "and tomorrow is a day" and show them that there will be other chances and days to go see the movie, but that day you cannot and should not be upset about it.
Tags Child disappointment Children's emotions Children's communication