The sleep routine imposed by many parents from early childhood seems to be a golden rule in disciplining the child. A mother, more nonconformist in nature, but this principle encouraged by specialists and states that the imposition of a military style on the behavior of the child during sleep or a forced "training", in which he is left to cry until exhaustion, is unnatural, dangerous and inefficient. .
Here are the reasons that caused my mother to rebel against imposing a baby sleep routine!
He is "barbarian"
One of the tips that promotes the specialists in the formation of the sleep routine is to ignore the child crying alone in the room and to let him alone. It seems that such a measure can lead to the frustration and phobias of the child, which can leave deep traces in his emotional development.
The young child does not know that he is left to cry as the "education" method for sleep. He is not a manipulator either, as most parents think. Most babies have a good reason for crying: either because they are scared or because they are suffering.
Such a method is considered "cruel" and even dangerous, especially if the baby is left to cry for many minutes in a row. When crying, the level of stress in the body, associated with stress, raises and puts the baby under great emotional and physical pressure.
The more he is left to cry, the more the child is under stress, and his health may suffer. In addition, the frequent waking of the baby during the night are natural, normal and desirable, both for night meals and for preventing frequent dangers. Before you complain that your baby wakes up frequently at night, think about it for his health.
One of the dangers that hang him during sleep apnea. If the child does not wake up and start crying when he or she has breathing problems associated with this problem, he or she may die, most likely due to sudden infant death syndrome. There is also the risk that, due to the strong and unconscionable crying, the child will drown with his own tears or nasal secretions.
By adopting a sleep routine, one tries to force the child to fall asleep for longer periods of time, which is unnatural. As mentioned above, when the baby is a newborn or baby, frequent awakening occurs against the background of physiological needs: he is hungry, he has done it, he is hot or cold, he is drowned, he feels bad, he is scared, etc. .
Each awakening has a logical explanation, and each crying must be "properly treated": the parent must go to the baby, comfort him and verify the reason for which he woke up, before encouraging him to fall asleep again.
It affects lactation and lactation
Many specialists recommend creating a bedtime routine from a very young age, even from the baby stage. But the attempt to encourage the baby to sleep for several hours without interruption affects the nocturnal breastfeeding, which, up to the age of 12 months, is curical for its good growth and development.
The baby wakes up more and more rarely, against the background of the measures you impose on your sleep routine, and no longer feeds properly. In addition, the absence of breastfeeding sessions during the night affects your lactation, which is stimulated "on demand".
It affects the affective relationship between you and the child
The affective relationship between mother and child is born, but it must be constantly strengthened. One of the ways is to be with him, at night when he is crying, he is scared and he needs you most. It is the moment when you show them, once again, that you are the person they can trust, in whose arms they feel the safest and safest. Letting your child cry for a few minutes in a row, without comforting her, erodes the relationship between you and the child.
It works in the short term
Unfortunately, the creation of a sleep routine works as long as the child sleeps only at home, there are no family events that give him the program over his head and he is not sick, situations where everything goes over his head and the routine can no longer be respected. .
In addition, if you are ill for a week and fall asleep at your own pace, after doing well, you must end it with rules and measures to re-adopt the routine with which it was used. But children who learn to fall asleep all night, at their own pace, in a loving and comfortable environment, develop their ability to adapt their sleep to new, unpredictable conditions.
The child loses confidence in you
The child relies on your support when he cries, is afraid or helpless in the face of physical suffering. If you try to apply a "correction", leaving him to cry in minutes and calm down alone, there is a risk of losing his confidence in you, getting scared and becoming confused. It is the moment when something "breaks" in the intangible and undeniable emotional relationship that had been created between you until then.
It affects communication
There is also a psychological role of crying in children, even if it occurs at night. It is a form of expression, but also a method of emotional release. Trying to inhibit their need for crying by constant criticism of this behavior and by forcing it to bypass it determines a dangerous precedent: in time, the child may come to believe that crying is something "bad", unacceptable.
If you give up crying when something hurts or when you feel scared, then how will you know when the child needs you, given that, at baby age, it is one of the few ways it communicates with you?
Do you think that imposing a bedtime routine, from a young age, is useful for teaching the child to sleep all night and have a quieter sleep? Do you agree that such a routine could be harmful? Do you go to meet the child when he cries at night or let him calm himself? Tell us your opinions in the comments section below!
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